Karling Kolter
(1936-2009)
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You will be missed.  / Alissa Iida (TM Student )  Read >>
You will be missed.  / Alissa Iida (TM Student )
I send my condolences to this family. I'm sorry to hear of your loss. I did not know that Karling had passed away. Her last words were "Call me when you get back so that we can do a check." I still can see her gorgeous smile in her bright orange sweater hear her girlish laugh and feel her energy all around me.

I never expected you to go this soon Karling. I just learnt TM from you in Februari and I have been doing it religiously twice a day every day. I had just spoken to you a few days before your passing. You seemed to be fine and I was looking so forward to meditating with you in another session and then laughing as we usually did. Thank you so much for sharing your gift with me. I always expected you to still be with me but I know that whatever the Universe had planned that you are still with me in Spirit...still sharing your laughter. We laughed so much!! We always got off track and then back on track. I can still hear your laughter and giggling. Once again thank you Karling as I know that you are watching over all of us for being my TM teacher and a friend. Thank you very much for sharing all of your stories about Hawaii and family with me. I love you very much and you will always be remembered. From my heart to yours I love you always.

I know that you are shining up there in Heaven looking and watching over everyone. I'm still in shock as I only found out tonight that you are not with us anymore. I had a "feeling" that something was not right this summer as I was traveling all over this summer but I refused to believe then I got my email sent back to me from you then Googled your name...and my "feeling" was correct. I cry my tears now but I know that you are safe in no pain and enjoying being in the Spirit World. The angels are with you guiding you...showing you the path that you lighted for others in this world.

Please take care and know that you will be missed very much. I love you very much and I am forever grateful to you for teaching me TM..it has been a GLORIOUS BLESSING in my life...just like how you were a blessing in my life. I love you very much Karling. Close
Uplifting gift  / Peter Salk (friend)  Read >>
Uplifting gift  / Peter Salk (friend)
I met Karling in the spring of 1973 when Maharishi came to San Diego and visited the Salk Institute.  She arranged for the person who became my initiator to contact me after that visit and also for me to visit Maharishi in Goleta where MIU was being planned.  She helped me through a rough spot I was having with my meditation early on and by her delightful presence leading one of my first residence courses inspired me to want to become a teacher.  And much later she added the note of heart that I needed in making a decision to return to work with my father.  What a thoroughly wonderful and uplifting gift she has provided to the people she has touched.

I remember the hugeness of the family that had collected in her life so many years ago.  It's so good you were all there to give back to her the love and support that she has given to so many others.

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Simply bliss  / Bryan Peterson (old friend )  Read >>
Simply bliss  / Bryan Peterson (old friend )
Karling  my dear friend has died –  but she is so alive and present here in this open heart that belongs to all and is located everywhere.  To meet here is honestly and simply bliss – or maybe a better name would be home.  My relationship with Karling has always been rooted in this meeting. When we saw each other after years our mutual inquiry was always about what has been realized – then we would talk about family friends teachers and all the rest.  She has always been a teacher for me – the best kind of friend. 

I would call it all love.  Aloha…..
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She held me up  / Janiece Piltingsrud (friend)  Read >>
She held me up  / Janiece Piltingsrud (friend)

I can't stop thinking about your dear mother and the many times she "held me up" encouraged me listened to me.  We also laughed lunched walked on the beach together and then I left Orange County and saw her only once since then. I am much saddened by this news and send loving healing thoughts wanting Karling to know she warmly and lovingly touched my life. 

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Vedic Atom  / Anne Flodihn Shook (friend)  Read >>
Vedic Atom  / Anne Flodihn Shook (friend)
Dearest Karling

I remember getting to know you the most in Orange County while on the
Vedic Atom Project.  You were part of our sisterhood and we loved
laughing sharing and flying with you.

When I called you from my mothers house in the SF Bay Area to say good bye
when the Vedic Atom project had ended  I remember just as we were
discussing Al and how much I was going to miss him he called and broke in
on our conversation.  To this day I don't know how that was relatively
possible since my mother did not have call waiting but somehow I was
talking to him and you were disconnected.  I called you back and said I'm
returning to Orange County and we laughed. The divine always surrounded
you.

You are Cosmic expressing the Divine Intelligence
the embodiment of love and grace
the angels surround you as always
I have and always will admire you
the way you radiate love all around you.

Bless you dear heart I know we are on the same path and I will see you
again soon. We are a world family.

The Cosmic Devatas created you surround you and will keep you safe. You
are a gem.
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An inspiration  / Larry Engwall (friend)  Read >>
An inspiration  / Larry Engwall (friend)

Jim and Karling were instrumental in convincing me to take the Sidhis courses years ago when I attended Residence Courses at Pac Pal.  I'm sorry to hear the sad news.  She'll always be an inspiration in my memory.

 

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Grace and inner beauty  / Marty &. Rosita Zucker (friends)  Read >>
Grace and inner beauty  / Marty &. Rosita Zucker (friends)

In life one never knows how one affects others.  Your mother affected us.  We were new meditators back in 1975 from the Merv Griffin wave and Karling came to lecture a few times at the old La Brea Center in Los Angeles .  We were inspired by her knowledge and ability to explain things along with her elegance and grace and inner beauty.  She was such a superb messenger of Maharishi’s priceless knowledge.  Later she headed some courses we attended including one I believe up in beautiful Asilomar near Monterey that my wife and I never forgot.   It was those beautiful messengers like your mother who helped “set the hook” of TM deeply into our psyche so that there was no possible way we could ever wiggle off.  To this day we remain regular in our program and go once a week to the Beverly Hills center to do group program and participate and help in any way we can.  We haven’t seen your mother for many years but she remains one of those people embedded in the appreciation center of our hearts.

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Rembering Karling  / VonNell Parry (Friend since high school )  Read >>
Rembering Karling  / VonNell Parry (Friend since high school )

Just recently heard about the passing of Karling.  What a shock! Karling and I became best of friends in high school.  I was there through her romancing with her first hustand and the birth of Rick.  We stayed in touch until after our 10th H.C. reunion. We had such good times that will last forever.  Recently at our 50th reunion we reconnected and it was if we had never separated.  We still could giggle, connect on a zillion levels.  A few years later we had lunch and giggled for 3 hours.  What a lot of memories.

I am sorry I couldn't have seen her more.  After reading of how she passed I could tell you it was exactly what she would have wanted (being we discussed death in depth at our last meeting).  Her light is still with us and will always be bright and constant as she never did things by half.

She loved you Jim and your extended families with all her heart (that is a quote ).  I hope (any pray) that your grief is eased by knowing how many people loved her. and the knowledge of how many people she had touched and loved in her life.

My condolences to you Jim and the extended family.  We can grieve at her leaving us, but can only smile as we remember her life.

VonNell Bradley Parry

 

 

 

 

 

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In memory  / Ralph &. Lydia Moody (Friends)  Read >>
In memory  / Ralph &. Lydia Moody (Friends)
To Karling's family: We extend our deepest sympathy.  Having known Karling since she was a young mother with two blond tykes, we were shocked and saddened by her sudden death.  We watched her grow as her family grew. We will miss a very dear friend.  With love, Ralph and Lydia Close
A Flood of Memories  / Marsha Kolter (sister-in-law)  Read >>
A Flood of Memories  / Marsha Kolter (sister-in-law)

A Flood of Memories

Thinking of stories about Karling has brought such a flood of memories. We spent so much time together and had so many long phone calls over the years, covering such a wide range of subjects - she has been an integral part of my life for the past 30 years, it is difficult to separate all those memories into just one incident.

I first got to know Karling shortly after she and Jim were married. I had moved to California after my first marriage broke up to be near my brother’s family and they welcomed me into their newly formed super-family. It was a family in transition with 8 teens and young adults of varying ages and temperaments all trying to get to know one another and their new step parents. It was chaotic, happy, frustrating, loving, and often a lot of fun.

As with all newly weds, two people with their own values, experiences and perspectives, there is a time of settling in and learning about each other, their families and their ways of thinking and viewing the world. I was fortunate to meet Karling at this interesting time in her life.

I have been truly blessed regarding my family. My parents were both loving and extraordinary people not only in their achievements in the medical field but mostly in the loving, humane, and respectful way they approached their fellow man. They were both true humanitarians. I also love my brother with all my heart and think of him too as one of the world’s most interesting, big-hearted, charismatic, and intelligent people. I came to understand that Karling and Jim connected so well because she too was one of the world’s extraordinary people. Karling and I began a lifelong relationship that went beyond friendship. She became much more than my sister-in-law, but truly became the sister of my heart. She was my mentor, my confidant, at times my psychologist and spiritual advisor, always my supporter and cheerleader. I hope that I filled at least some of those roles for her as well. For sure, I know I was also often, especially in the early years, her interpreter. I interpreted the mystique of the “Kolters” and in particular, the very mysterious and often elusive personality of Jim Kolter.

As is often the case with two dynamic people, learning to understand and live with each other day to day can be a challenge. I can remember so many conversations when Karling would relate what had happened or what was said and plaintively ask, “Does this make ANY sense to you? Because it doesn’t to me. Why would he do/say that?” And then I, in my perspective as a Kolter, would interpret my brother’s actions or words and say something like, “Well, based on the way we grew up, or what we were taught, or what our father/mother/grandparents/sisters, etc. said, perhaps it means this…” And we would discuss possibilities and interpretations that would range from the rational through the spiritual and sometimes into the hysterically funny. And gradually I would hear her voice change from frustration to calm, and we would often dissolve into sheer delighted laughter at the absurdity of men and women, love and families. And how something so “simple” as communication between marriage partners could be so complex.

As the years went on there was less and less need for “an interpreter” as Karling and Jim meshed into a solid, loving unit. But our sisterhood was always strong and our enjoyment of each other was a positive force in both of our lives. Karling was a simply amazing woman, with an endless capacity for love and caring that was obvious to everyone who knew her. I will love, honor and miss her for the rest of my life. She helped me and guided me through some of my very darkest hours, with sensitivity and compassion. And I will always smile a special smile at the memory of those early years, full of the wonder of new relationships and loves and the forging of a tightly knit bond.

One of my happy memories is having the privilege of spending time with Karling and Jim at Peggy’s recent wedding. I have enclosed what I think may be one of the last pictures of her, intent on conversing with friends and family and sharing a joyous occasion.


Marsha Kolter

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My mother-in-law, teacher, friend  / Mara Kolter (Daughter-in-law)  Read >>
My mother-in-law, teacher, friend  / Mara Kolter (Daughter-in-law)
What makes perfect sense about the philosophical argument for “when it is our time it is your time” appears to make no sense at all when it comes to loss. Karling was my mother-in-law, friend, confidante and soul mate in many ways. We shared many deep beliefs….beliefs of faith in people, in nature, of connections in family and an extended family that consists of all the people who have been are in our lives for the moments that they are truly  meant to be.   The web and intermingling of our journeys, of watching our children and standing far enough back to see their unique gifts and challenges …. Yes, we laughed a lot at our “serious” selves.  Her influence on my husband, her step-son, Kenny, can’t be put into words. I’m blessed every day from that influence and how it was interpretated by him.  And, I will never forget her teaching Lehshel, our daughter, how to passionately growl like a tiger before Lehshel could even speak.  There are moments that I see the energy of that teaching still inside our courageous, beautiful daughter, now 17. 

What starry path Karling is drawn to now could only be the next part of her creative journey. She told me in March, “I think I am finally getting to my Core,  Mara. I feel something elemental is shifting, something I have missed all of these years about myself. It feels great!”  Knowing she was definitely onto something and had found profound awareness for her process does not make me miss her less.  I still feel like she is on vacation or some distant trip that – at the moment – just makes her physical presence unavailable.  Her spirit, her penetrating awareness, love, and humor are as tangible as they, of course, would be with or without her .  She loved deeply and, Karling, you are loved and missed deeply right back. Close
Small words for such a wonderful woman.....  / Kenny Kolter (Step - Son )  Read >>
Small words for such a wonderful woman.....  / Kenny Kolter (Step - Son )
It’s quite difficult to explain

The affect and effect of Karling

Affect by definition: to impress the mind or move the feelings of: example - The music affected him deeply.

Effect by definition: a mental or emotional impression produced, as by a painting or a speech.

Karling’s presence in my life & in my family’s has been and will continue to be a complete, fluid, encompassing blessing.

In simple terms the following words flavor her blessings – joy, spirit, laughter, compassion, understanding & love. Karling embodied the divine feminine nature of Kwan-Yin and Mary along with a penetrating laugh and giggle that still prances in my head as I write this.

I still can’t believe she’s gone.

With gratitude,

Kenny Close
A note from my childhood friend about Karling  / Kenny Kolter (Step - Son )  Read >>
A note from my childhood friend about Karling  / Kenny Kolter (Step - Son )
I am so sad to hear of the passing of Karling. I only read the sad news last night. I'm so so sorry to hear this sad sad news so late. These things are happening just way too soon!! Too soon. When I look back to those days as a teen, I remember how her positive  energy showed me a new & better way of viewing and understanding this world. Her wise and kind words helped to nudge that kid towards who I am now. And for that I'll be grateful to the end of my days. And I smile when I remember that time she rescued us when we were on our bikes after you got hit in the crosswalk by the mall. She was just so cool about the whole thing! At the time I was just not used to adults being so... nice! (Kenny and I were 14ish I think) So, I need to go think about things for a while. I hope your dad's hangin' in there. And your whole family too.  I really do hope this finds you well! - Danny Madigan Close
Texas / Mary Champion (Friend)  Read >>
Texas / Mary Champion (Friend)
I was at my cabin in the Texas hill country when I received the news of Karling's passing.  That is the place of my fondest memories of our short time together.   I went back through the cabin journals and saw hers written in April 2002.  We had intended to have a small group go that weekend but with the vagaries of everyone's lives, it was just the two of us.  What a blessing.  The rain sporadically came but didn't dampen whatever we chose to do.  Bandera, the town fairly close to the cabin, and the selfproclaimed cowboy capital of the world, was having an equestrian exhibition.  That was the first new thing I learned about my friend.   We stopped, watched, explained what the riders were doing, and shared her experience with the sport.   The cabin is a place of serenity where we drank coffee on the porch, watched deer, and explored each other's lives and experiences.   One important memory about that was that she never referred to any of the family as her kids, or grandkids.  You were always named.  Amazing for someone with so many!  I had never done that with anyone who didn't know my children, but I have since then because it made such an impression on me.  We ambled back to Corpus Christi and saw something going on as we reached the outskirts of San Antonio.  Of all things, and as surprising as it was to see an equestrian performance rather than a rodeo in Bandera, this was a Scottish festival complete with kilts, bagpipes and haggis.  What fun.  I treasure the friends I have who take time to make the most simple of outings an adventure.  Karling was so very good at that.   Just saying her name makes me smile.    Thank you for this beautiful website and the opportunity to share what she meant to me.  10,000 blessings, Mary Close
SHE IS AN ANGEL  / Laurie Perez (Governor & TM teacher and friend )  Read >>
SHE IS AN ANGEL  / Laurie Perez (Governor & TM teacher and friend )

I have known Karling since 1972.  I remember all of the wonderful residence courses in California and her profound kindness, peacefulness and intelligence as a teacher and friend.

When my family and I  moved to Nevada and I found out Jim & Karling lived minutes from us, Karling and I immediately continued our friendship.  She has helped me so much with my personal situations and her gentleness in thought, words and deeds never faltered.  I will always remember her smile and especially her eagerness to help not only me, but all who came in contact with her.

I miss her so, but know she is with us all in spirit, still eager to help.  And, I know Maharishi and Guru Dev have assignments for her.

My love goes out to Jim and all of the family.  She always talked out her family and how much she loved them all.

 

Jai Guru Dev

 

Laurie Perez

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Thanks for the memories  / Atarangi Muru (Friend/fellow healer )  Read >>
Thanks for the memories  / Atarangi Muru (Friend/fellow healer )
Kia ora and greetings to you all. Firstly I would like to extend our heartfelt condolences to the family of Karling. Such a loss, and we all feel it. A woman of deep conviction, spiritual energy and soul. She could make the heart sing with her soft words or the joy bubble with her laughter. As part of the group of Maori Healers that 'happened' upon her and her family we are so grateful to have known your beautiful Mom. She fulfilled her role in life by bringing and sharing a level of enlightenment to all she met. Who can say that in their everyday life. To Rick who opened up his stunning home in Hawaii so we could work there, thank you. To Ricks sons who wanted to show us how to surf, well all I can say is that we needed two surfboards lashed together to hold any ONE of us. Know that we hold you in our prayers. To the Grandsons we met from Spain, your Nan so loved you. She would tell Papa Joe and I stories of your antics and what she would hope for your future, knowing full well that control was in your hands but guidance was in hers. To the rest of the family, you have been blessed by an Angel lent for a time. Now the real living starts to happen, where you have to fly on your own with a wing that has a slight scar on it. Please know we are here for you at any time. Our love always. Thank you letting your Mom be the person she most needed to be, and had to be in order to open up the hearts of so many. Moe mai e te hoa Karling. Moe mai ra. Hoki atu ki te torona o Ihowa. Hoki atu ra, hoki atu ra, hoki atu ra. Arohanui Atarangi. Close
Just the highest heaven...  / Lisa Raskin DC (friend)  Read >>
Just the highest heaven...  / Lisa Raskin DC (friend)
I am so so so sorry for your loss.  I am still a bit in shock.  So fast.  I had no idea.  After Karling and Jim left Texas we stayed in touch for a while because Karling and Jim and my husband and I were involved in starting some real estate deals together.  But then when we stopped doing that there was just the occasional call and email.  But I feel so close to her.  Can this be?

I love Karling.  She was so warm and generous and brilliant!  She always knew what to do back when I was single and had relationship problems.  She was always the one to call.  No matter what she was in the middle of, she was there for me.  She was so non-judgemental, you know?  Probably the most non-judgemental person I've ever known.  Just always looking for what to say to give someone clarity and peace.  That was what she was all about.

And so many weekends at their beautiful place in Corpus.  She was so so generous.  I know I keep saying that but it is so so true.

And then of course all those Access courses together.  I'm guessing you knew about those energy clearing classes.  I'll never forget when she was becoming awakened, she kept saying that she couldn't find her 'I' and everyone just couldn't get what she was saying.  I knew.  I knew. 

So I am convinced she is in the most wonderful space/place.  Just the highest heaven, you know?

Anyhow, thank you for letting me know.  I send you and your extended family huge, huge, long, hugs.

Sending much love,
Lisa Close
Full of light  / Lenora Boyle (friend & colleague )  Read >>
Full of light  / Lenora Boyle (friend & colleague )
"There’s a crack in everything. That’s how the light gets in"...Leonard Cohen I heard these words on the radio several weeks ago, jotted down the line from the song, and it kept floating through my days, like a hot air balloon that got stuck in a tree somewhere. It's so true. There’s a crack right now. A dear friend and mentor passed away last week, very suddenly. Her New Years card sent the 2nd week in January said “Happy Enlightened New Year. Call me at this number. “ I tore out the part of the card that included the number, and left it on the shelf above my blue kitchen desk for 5 months. Everyday I looked at it and left it there because I knew when I had a moment I was going to sit with a cup of tea and talk with her. Then a few weeks ago, I decided to clean off my shelf. I added her cell number to my cell phone, so I would always have it with me. I realize now that throwing away the torn card coincided with her going into the hospital. I don’t regret that I didn’t call in time to talk with her. It just was one of those things. What I focus on is her sparkling eyes, giggles, and laughter. I'll always be grateful to her because she turned me on to my coaching career by bringing the Option Method into my life in 1991, then introduced me to Mandy Evans, who I then studied with for many years. Karling and I spent wonderful hours and days together in workshops and in Option Method dialogues creating more happiness in our lives. She was an incredible teacher and mentor to me. Karling's gift of teaching and inspiring others reached around the world. She taught meditation from Hawaii to Spain and places in between. Her new years letters were filled with names of all of her 10 children/stepchildren, their spouses, children, grandchildren and how she and her husband, Jim, had visited most of them that year. There’s a crack in my heart, but the light is coming in. Broken open, broken free. She will always represent fullness of life, love and laughter. I feel her presence very tangibly. Is it love that’s left behind? Love from the flash of light? Karling drove to Chicago once with me, my husband, and my son. My son was 3 or 4 years old. When he asked how much longer and I said, 3 hours, he cried, “Oh my GAW” He had a little problem saying some letters like “D”. Karling roared with laughter from the back seat she was sharing with him. It was our personal joke whenever she and I were together, and something outrageous happened, we’d look at each other and say, "Oh my GAW!” I did call her as soon as I heard she was in hospice care to give her my love, but later found out she had already made the transition. I left a message. If everything has a crack so the light comes in, I know Karling's light is shining brightly. I miss her. Sending love to all the family, Lenora Boyle Close
Lenora@ChangeLimitin-gBeliefs.com / Lenora Boyle (friend & colleague )  Read >>
Lenora@ChangeLimitin-gBeliefs.com / Lenora Boyle (friend & colleague )
"There’s a crack in everything. That’s how the light gets in"...Leonard Cohen I heard these words on the radio several weeks ago, jotted down the line from the song, and it kept floating through my days, like a hot air balloon that got stuck in a tree somewhere. It's so true. There’s a crack right now. A dear friend and mentor passed away last week, very suddenly. Her New Years card sent the 2nd week in January said “Happy Enlightened New Year. Call me at this number. “ I tore out the part of the card that included the number, and left it on the shelf above my blue kitchen desk for 5 months. Everyday I looked at it and left it there because I knew when I had a moment I was going to sit with a cup of tea and talk with her. Then a few weeks ago, I decided to clean off my shelf. I added her cell number to my cell phone, so I would always have it with me. I realize now that throwing away the torn card coincided with her going into the hospital. I don’t regret that I didn’t call in time to talk with her. It just was one of those things. What I focus on is her sparkling eyes, giggles, and laughter. I'll always be grateful to her because she turned me on to my coaching career by bringing the Option Method into my life in 1991, then introduced me to Mandy Evans, who I then studied with for many years. Karling and I spent wonderful hours and days together in workshops and in Option Method dialogues creating more happiness in our lives. She was an incredible teacher and mentor to me. Karling's gift of teaching and inspiring others reached around the world. She taught meditation from Hawaii to Spain and places in between. Her new years letters were filled with names of all of her 10 children/stepchildren, their spouses, children, grandchildren and how she and her husband, Jim, had visited most of them that year. There’s a crack in my heart, but the light is coming in. Broken open, broken free. She will always represent fullness of life, love and laughter. I feel her presence very tangibly. Is it love that’s left behind? Love from the flash of light? Karling drove to Chicago once with me, my husband, and my son. My son was 3 or 4 years old. When he asked how much longer and I said, 3 hours, he cried, “Oh my GAW” He had a little problem saying some letters like “D”. Karling roared with laughter from the back seat she was sharing with him. It was our personal joke whenever she and I were together, and something outrageous happened, we’d look at each other and say, "Oh my GAW!” I did call her as soon as I heard she was in hospice care to give her my love, but later found out she had already made the transition. I left a message. If everything has a crack so the light comes in, I know Karling's light is shining brightly. I miss her. Sending love to all the family, Lenora Boyle Close
My Grandma  / Rachael Carroll (Granddaughter)  Read >>
My Grandma  / Rachael Carroll (Granddaughter)
My fondest memories of Grandma Karling are the most recent ad the best. Over thanksgiving break Alyssa and I stayed with Grandma Karling and Grandads for three days and during that time I created a very close bond with Grandma Karling. We played cards and piano. Watched old movies, and Dancing with the Stars. Went out to ice cream, walked through a desert garden and together made a wonderful Thanksgiving meal (although all I mostly did was peel potatoes).
Grandma Karling was always like the owl in the tree. Wise, beautiful, and watching over her family. She was also graceful strong and loving until the very end. And when i think about it I can't remember one time when Grandma Karling wasn't cool calm and collected. I wish i could thank Grandma Karling for everything she did for me. I will miss her so much.

Rachel Carroll, Granddaughter
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